Several entries ago I had some comments on love and illustrated an idea with two diagrams. Since I have been working on a presentation of the five love languages for an English corner I thought I would summarize the presentation here.
In the entry titled “Love Is” the characteristics of love were presented. These can be illustrated in the following diagram.
The next diagram represents two people having these characteristics.
How do two people love the other or feel loved by the other? Consider the five love languages as a possibility. The following diagram shows five love languages between the two persons. Which one might be dominant for each person and how will that affect the feelings between them?
Consider the love language profile for each person in the following diagram.
Note that Person A and Person B both have the same dominant love language of Words of Affirmation. Since they speak the same love language it should be easy for them to feel loved by the other. Even though the language is the same they should be careful about the dialect. They might want to hear different kinds of words.
A possible benefit for these two people is their second language. Person A is strong in Quality Time and Acts of Service. Person B is strong in Physical Touch. Person A could learn to speak the language of Physical Touch and connect with Person B that way and Person B could learn to speak the language of Quality Time or Acts of Service and speak to Person A that way.
It is better if two people do not have the same two top love languages. If the top language is the same for both, that is good, but if the second is different it provides a great opportunity to learn a second language, which will broaden one's life.
The characteristics of love each person has, provides the benefit of greater quality in speaking their language or in learning a second language.
Consider another example.
Will it be easy or difficult for Person A and Person B to feel loved by the other? It will be difficult as they do not have a common love language. In order to feel loved by the other, one or both of them will have to learn another language and that will take time and patience.
Person B will want to express his or her love by physical touch or by receiving gifts, but that may irritate or mean nothing to Person A. Likewise Person A will probably try to love Person B using the language of Words or Quality Time, but that will not mean much to Person B. These two people will probably struggle in their relationship unless they put forth an effort to learn another language. For them having the characteristics of love will be a great benefit in helping them learn the second language.
In the entry titled “Love Is” the characteristics of love were presented. These can be illustrated in the following diagram.
The next diagram represents two people having these characteristics.
How do two people love the other or feel loved by the other? Consider the five love languages as a possibility. The following diagram shows five love languages between the two persons. Which one might be dominant for each person and how will that affect the feelings between them?
Consider the love language profile for each person in the following diagram.
Note that Person A and Person B both have the same dominant love language of Words of Affirmation. Since they speak the same love language it should be easy for them to feel loved by the other. Even though the language is the same they should be careful about the dialect. They might want to hear different kinds of words.
A possible benefit for these two people is their second language. Person A is strong in Quality Time and Acts of Service. Person B is strong in Physical Touch. Person A could learn to speak the language of Physical Touch and connect with Person B that way and Person B could learn to speak the language of Quality Time or Acts of Service and speak to Person A that way.
It is better if two people do not have the same two top love languages. If the top language is the same for both, that is good, but if the second is different it provides a great opportunity to learn a second language, which will broaden one's life.
The characteristics of love each person has, provides the benefit of greater quality in speaking their language or in learning a second language.
Consider another example.
Will it be easy or difficult for Person A and Person B to feel loved by the other? It will be difficult as they do not have a common love language. In order to feel loved by the other, one or both of them will have to learn another language and that will take time and patience.
Person B will want to express his or her love by physical touch or by receiving gifts, but that may irritate or mean nothing to Person A. Likewise Person A will probably try to love Person B using the language of Words or Quality Time, but that will not mean much to Person B. These two people will probably struggle in their relationship unless they put forth an effort to learn another language. For them having the characteristics of love will be a great benefit in helping them learn the second language.
